Since it's been nearly 8 weeks (I had to count the weeks on the calendar just then...) since our perfectly imperfect wedding, I thought I'd say HEY! Didya miss me!? You were probably sighing in relief thinking I wasn't coming back. I thought so last week too but hey, natalie jean, you get me every dang time.
I was thinking last week. Thinking about what I would say to a bride to be if God forbid she asked for my advice on wedding planning. I came to be thinking about it because it had occurred to me how very different life is now. I feel like an entirely new woman. I may not have formally changed my name yet (I'm getting to it I swear) but I feel like I've traded places with Mrs Dewberry and it is so good to finally be here.
Planning the wedding was this wonderfully painful spiritual journey that I feel has changed who I am. Now that it's over my focus has shifted, I feel like I am responding to life differently, I'm trusting the timing of the universe because the universe has better plans for me (and us) than I do. I'm out of the wedding fog! I unfollowed the wedding blogs and everything!
Now that I'm so wise and old and married I think I would tell a bride to be that weddings are a pain in the ass. Because it's true. I would tell them to try their very best to be flexible with the things that are out of their control. And most importantly, I would tell them to not take advice from anyone. So I think this will be my official statement;
Dear brides to be,
Listen to whoever is throwing advice at you like it's a free muffin, smile at them, nod your head even, but do whatever the eff you want to do anyway, just the way you want to do it.
I promise you will learn many life lessons and regret nothing when you're done and married.
All my love and faith and muffins,
Girl who is done with weddings